How can stress make you FAT
50Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes
The same old adage
I have just come out of the battle field, I had no warning, I have a
terrible flu and my voice is gone, I was weak and I said it few times
live on that radio show , I said I am at a disadvantage here, I am not well, but I
fought back and won the last word for size acceptance, on live radio.
They had 3 Doctors one after the other spreading the same propaganda
on Obesity, same old adage.
They were saying one thing then when I retaliate, they change their
tune for a while, then go back to saying obesity kills. They sounded like a
sales pitch for weightloss to the connoisseur, but doom and gloom to the listener.
Obesity is a major killer in Africa they said, it is a time bomb
waiting to explode and kills every one in its path.
Do these Doctor's mean Obesity will kill, every African who survives the Famine, Poverty and the Aids Epidemic?
should re check their Data, how can obesity be killing Africans when
over 77% are dying from starvation and aids.
One of the doctors told me that I was feeling victimized, I should
not. They only want my health and well being, and of course my money in the process
The other doctor said since I am an activist then I have negative feelings
and need help. I must be positive, he said, and do something about
my weight. I should not be too confident because if I have any one
in my family who has diabetes, I will surely get it. I said I would get it even if I was thin. I thanked him for his advice and said that scaring people into starvation is not the right way to go about it. The worst thing, I said, was the humiliation, the abuse, the
insults and the marginalization of fat people and not acceptance of
diversity. You want one size to fit all and you make beauty trends
that are not attainable by the majority in the world.
The dietician said first that obesity kills and that they must get
rid of it. Then when I asked how does she gets rid of it, when diets do
not work, she brought the "only losing 10% of the weight is enough" excuse they always spout out when cornered, then she quickly got back to the obesity kills message.
I spoke about many things. I had more time since I was a punching
bag. The presenter asked the doctors to convince me that obesity
kills and that I should not be proud of being fat, but I answered
back (I had to shout sometimes) my voice is very weak, I am not well,
but I found strength in our cause and I fought on with dignity and
respect for them and myself. They kept repeating the same thing about
how not every fat person gets diseases like the smokers but obesity
in general kills and Africa is in mortal danger from It.
I managed to talk about eating disorders, stress and how it plays a major role in making people fatter and how it causes all the diseases they blame on obesity and more, I exposed the ridiculing of fat people in society and in the media, talked about my own experience as a fat beautiful normal person. I pointed out to the so called war on obesity that
has no opponents, and how it is fighting the docile fat people who believe all the lies and scare tactics and get on the merry-go-round of dieting, dangerous surgery, eating disorders, risking their lives to reach the dream of thinness health and happiness, they are told weight loss will get them. Only to find themselves, stressed, frustrated, depressed and Fatter than when they started. Fat people, have no voice and they are always blamed for their size, and for all the ills in the world that allegedly are caused by the obese..
The doctor then said, We are not fighting you Fatima, we are fighting
obesity not the obese. You have a problem with people, but we are
fighting the fat not fat people.
I said you have been fighting fat for over 50 years and obesity is on
the rise, why? ...they did not answer. I said what we need is
education and acceptance that people can learn to live happy healthy
lives at any size. And if you do not push for one size fits all and
make one look or one colour a trend and model of beauty to sell hope
of happiness and success in a jar , if every one was respected and
had dignity and their self esteem was not damaged from feeling low
and inadequate, then there would not be extreme obesity nor would
there be need for a war.
Fatima Parker President ISAA UK & MENA www.size-acceptance.org/uk www.size-acceptance.org/mena
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Bless you, Fatima! Those doctors have made a religion of weight loss and like many fanatics, you can talk and talk but never truly convert them. The fact that you keep working on it is truly inspiring. I adore your courage, your intelligence, and your persistence in the face of such unreason. Keep up the good work. Not all of us are that brave, so it truly helps to see people who are.
Darla
It sounds like you have been fighting the worst kind of scum, doctors who will lie to the public to make a buck. Stay strong knowing you have the truth on your side!
Bless you Fatima. The work you are doing is so hard and you are doing it so well. I have heard some of your broadcasts and I know that you are smart, articulate and not to be denied. Thank you for all that you do. With love. TFC.
wow - you really took the fastballs and turned them into homeruns (Ok, LOL,
does that baseball analogy make ANY sense to you??)
Fantastic job - one against many - and you held your own with class.
I'm just surprised nobody tried to tell you you'd gotten a virus because you
were fat.
Lizbeth
well said Darla, three cheers for Fatima, a truly wonderful woman
"No one can make you feel
inferior WITHOUT your permission!" (Eleanor Roosevelt).
Everything and Everyone in Life is your Teacher
"Discrimination - it's just WRONG!"
We come in all sizes. . .
Understand it
Support it
Accept it
Katie
Well said! Fatima, Keep up the good work
Kimberly
Why is hubpages.com adding hundreds of weight-loss, diet, surgery ads beside this article. Seemes odd. Nice article, though. Great job Fatima
You Rock
Buffy
What is hubpages.com? There were a hundred weight-loss, diet, surgery ads beside this article. Seemed odd. Nice article, though. Great job.
Thank you for courageously standing up to these misinformed and arrogant doctors. They need to be called out in public just as you are doing, and to learn that they are actually doing harm.
Par
How wonderful to hear that someone half-way across the world from me who is speaking up this way, and in a very public way, against doctors being given airtime and credibility they don't deserve. At the same time, how sad that when so many in Africa are dying of AIDS and poverty, people there must deal with this ignorance and bigotry, too.
Keep up the good work Fatima
Thank you.
Kelly
Because you did not give ground in the debate (as you so well describe it), you won. They expected you to put your tail between your legs and slink away.
I guarantee that there were radio listeners who felt renewed for the first time when they heard your message!
I think reading your narrative of the debate is instructional for those who are afraid of confronting doctors and others on a radio show or other settings.
I realize that you represent more than one organization, just as I do (ISAA-UK in your case, Council on Size & Weight Discrimination, in my case) and we are both members of other groups, but you are also helping to confirm that the Association for Size Diversity and Health, to which we both belong, is the international organization that it really is. It was primarily a HAES message you were preaching, and it sounds as if this was the first experience they had with a HAES activist!
So thank you!
Bill Fabrey
member, ASDAH
www.sizediversityandhealth.org
Because you did not give ground in the debate (as you so well describe it), you won. They expected you to put your tail between your legs and slink away.
I guarantee that there were radio listeners who felt renewed for the first time when they heard your message!
I think reading your narrative of the debate is instructional for those who are afraid of confronting doctors and others on a radio show or other settings.
I realize that you represent more than one organization, just as I do (ISAA-UK in your case, Council on Size & Weight Discrimination, in my case) and we are both members of other groups, but you are also helping to confirm that the Association for Size Diversity and Health, to which we both belong, is the international organization that it really is. It was primarily a HAES message you were preaching, and it sounds as if this was the first experience they had with a HAES activist!
So thank you!
Bill Fabrey
member, ASDAH
www.sizediversityandhealth.org
Thank you Fatima, this is a very good read.
Alicia
Fatima is the of the few against the prejudices of size discrimination,and say how the diet industry uses these prejudices to make millions. She encourages a healthy lifestyle and the right to be accepted as the person you are, whatever that size they may be. Fatima needs to spread the word and write a book about it so that more will benefit from her views.
Thank you all, I am glad that you like my writing my ideas and fight for humanity dignity and respect for all regardless of size color or creed.
Please keep visiting my pages and reading more of my blogs
Warm Regards
Tima
Beautiful Lady, smart, classy and elegant, a woman of my dreams.
Pianistiquement
This is the type of women I dream of, feminin, sensual, soft, sexy and loving, big women are beautiful and make the best lovers
That is what is keeping us fat women feeling low, men who love us are not always as brave as you Steve, Thank you, we love you too.
Fatbulicious
Happy Birthday, dear Sister in the Struggle. Dear Hero. Dear Woman of Valor. Dear Tima. May you thrive, may you welcome the wisdom of the years as they pass, may you have more and more fun, more pleasure, and more peace this year than last, and next year than this, and always.
Fatima you are my Hero.
Sally
you are beautiful to the extreme. i'd dream of woman like you to share me my life and i will be blessed then.? size matters. fat is better. healthy is not necessarily skinny. skinny is ugly.
I like curvy girls and I hate skinny one's
keep it up Fatima I am wth you
jamy123jej
Its great to read a path breaking blog like this. i Think Madam Fatima is right . Its more hype about obesity than fact.
this is a great article indeed an eyeopner
The Lady is very very very Beautiful, graceful , intelligent and enlightened. i feel that i will feel weak in my knees in Her Gracious presence. Indeed She is a Goddess and a true beauty of mind and Body.......a rare combination.....thanks Goddess
If every one was respected and
had dignity and their self esteem was not damaged from feeling low
and inadequate, then there would not be extreme obesity nor would
there be need for a war.
Brilliantly said Dr. Fatima we love you.
its a great article . i really liked it and i wish that everyone should read this one
great article .....really a piece of intelligence............
Very intelligent writing Fatima, when can we read your new book?
Princesse Fatima
tu es merveilleuse.
Great Interview, Fatima, you have saved lives. keep up the good work.
Few
are willing to brave the disapproval of their fellows, the censure of
their colleagues, the wrath of their society. Moral courage is a rarer
commodity than bravery in battle or great intelligence. Yet it is the
one essential, vital quality for those who seek to change a world that
...yields most painfully to change. And I believe that in this ... See Moregeneration those with the courage to enter the moral conflict will find themselves with companions in every corner of the globe.-- John Fitzgerald Kennedy
Roger 2 years ago
Your words are so magnificent and valiant, your debating those 3 health "professionals" not to mention the moderator, who sounds like (s)he was no help at all.
Well Done Tima
Keep up the good work
Roger